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Out of my hiatus!

2007-06-07T22:11:00.000+01:00

My apologies for going MIA to be honest i just didn't have anything to rant about. Going through my regular blog rounds i read that one of the few female pastors i have been blessed to sit under her ministration has passed on to glory.Pastor Ify was truly a blessing. What i admired the most about her was her realness. She was also a loving wife and mother. Its at moments like this that my immortality really hits home big time. My prayers are with Pastor Agu, Nonye and JJ.The Lord Almighty will be their comfort at this very difficult time.

What encouraged me the most was the video recording of the service (it is a pretty long clip but u can fast forward to 1hour, 24mins to get the gist of what i am saying)that was held at Jesus House on the 5th of June( a day after she passed on to glory). Indeed our God is all-knowing and to truly know Him is to know peace beyond understanding. To be honest i was humbled by the strength of the members of the congregation. My prayers are with all the Irukwus, Pastor Ify's parents, siblings and all members of Jesus House. The Lord will give everyone affected by this death the strength to bear the loss. She is definately resting with the Lord.

Sun re o Kola Olawuyi

2007-03-06T10:18:00.000+01:00

My sincere apologies for going awol. Work has tied this sistah up big time.

I was just doing my rounds of daily naija news when i bumped into this

For the yoruba speakers among us who still remember the show called Nkan Mbe back in naija. The host of the show passed on last week. To say i am crushed is an understatement. There was something about Kola Olawuyi that i respected and that was his guts. While i was home last year for Nysc i always tried to catch his show on the radio(eventhough some of the gist were scary it was always an eye opener). One that sticks to mind from back in the day was 'talo yoju ayoka' (translation, who plucked out ayoka's eyes!!!). His show was mainly to showcase the scary things that happened around us, dwelling on the supernatural and all that stuff.He always tried to be as objective as he could possibly be and was always quick to make corrections when and if the need came up.

He left behind aged parents, a wife and children. May his soul rest in peace.

Happy Valentine's Day

2007-02-14T18:32:00.000+01:00

Hey people! Happy Val's day. I hope you are all having a good day? Thanks DJ Valentine for hooking me up with 'my song'. U need to checkout her hot playlist.

This time last year i was still in lagos serving (away from habibi) so i roasted big time. He was sweet enough to have my gifts sent down (had to keep hoarding him about ensuring i got them before the 14th). Biodun seems to have that in common with me :)

Well this year has started off excellent in every sense of the word. I mentioned having a list of goals for 2007 and i can say without a doubt that God has been truly faithful. My first valentines as a married woman has been beautiful so far (went for a lovely lunch with habibi and yours truly ate like a pig! am allowed jare, i can still remember i used to eat at home before going on any dinner dates back in the day that way my asiri (secret) as a pariolodo won't be revealed!) Remember i mentioned not knowing what to get for habibi well yours truly still hasn't gotten him a gift o. Now i am going to pay for that big time (lord help me).

Lately i have been coming across women who juggle work, raising infant kids and all the other stuff that come with life (now they are people i know not just somebody's friends) and it has changed my views completely on motherhood. Mennnnnn these women are trying big time. The thought of raising a human being and knowing that the decisions i make for that person for the first 5 years of their lives will make or mar them really scares me. I dunno where all this phobia is coming from (lord help me).

Went to get my hair done yesterday and all i can say is - i will never ever in my life touch afro kinky again.. Now i look like a rastafarian (habibi's words!). I decided to try a new look and reduce the number of times i do 'feathers' now i have learnt fast 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it'. The lady did the hair and all brought the mirror and i was like o no! Habibi is going to have a laugh at my expense for a few weeks! The worst part is that i have a busy weekend (another naija style party) now with this rasta hair i am just going to fake an illness and be 'invisible' at the party (u didn't think i was going to miss the party!). No jumping around for me.

I couldn't help but blog about Temmytayo (its all love girl). I loved the piece you did on love today. My two kobo pray about it, don't go with the illusion aight.

This blog is dedicated to the only man that brings out the best and the worst in me. Olowo ori mi ale absolutely no one else. My darling habibi, no one else comes close to you. We have our drama (don't we lol) but u are the best there is baby. I thank the lord everyday for that phone call on the 19th of July 2005 (it completely changed my life). All that talk about relocating to lagos bcos i needed to sort my self out lol.Its been 7 months, 3 weeks and 1 day of being your better half and i am lookin forward to more decades with you.

Adieu Blogger Beta

2007-02-05T15:49:00.000+01:00

Hey Everyone! I hope you are all doing great? I would love to say a big thank you to everyone that checked up on me while i was abit under the weather. Desola i am waiting for that pepper soup please and Anthony i will have to pass on that agunmu.

I felt like such a novice signing on to blogger today, gone are the days of having to choose btw blogger beta and the new version. Its now a dictatorship, i just have to change or what will happen pshhhhhhhh! I guess the rebel in me wasn't too keen on switching over.

Alot has been happening since the last time i blogged. Had guests over a few weeks ago ( a mother and two kids) and they brought all the best and worst in habibi and I. Don't babies just look adorable when they are not living with you! Between having to remind the 3 year old that she should be able to feed herself and dealing with the 1 year old who has an obsession for opening things i thought i was going to go crazy! There should be a kinda of boot camp for lil munchins! Props go out to all the mothers out there who have to deal with raising kids, holding a job down and still be a good wifey. More power to you ladies.

9 days to valentines and i am not too sure what i should get habibi. Maybe i should just tell him i don't believe in all the hype (then again that might backfire since he is getting me an ipod nano!) I need to get my act together real quick.

Missed y'all abit and will try and do catch up this week!

Its all about the weather not!

2007-01-24T21:01:00.000+01:00

My apologies for not posting in a hot second. I have being a bit under the weather. I hope y'all are doing great. To my fellow londoners i hope the weather today didn't mess up your travelling too much? I was so excited to see snow this morning :)

Once i get better i will have a proper post up.

When will this crap stop

2007-01-12T12:31:00.000+01:00

Dear Friend,

I'm happy to inform you about my success in getting the fund transferred under the cooperation of a new partner from paraguay.

Presently i'm in Paraguay for investment projects with my own share of the total sum. Meanwhile,I didn't forget your past efforts and attempts to assist me in transferring those funds despite that it failed us some how. Now contact my secretary,his name is Mr, Clem Uzu and his email address: is (clemuzu1234@yahoo.fr) ask him to send you the total $1,850.000.00 which I kept for your compensation for all the past efforts and attempts to assist me in this matter. I appreciated your efforts at that time very much. So feel free and get in touched with my secretary Mr, Clem Uzu and instruct him where to send the amount to you.

Please do let me know immediately you receive it so that we can share the joy after all the sufferness at that time. In the moment,I am very busy here because of the investment projects which me and the new partner are having at hand.Finally, remember that I had forwarded instruction to the secretary on your behalf to receive that money, so feel free to get in touch with Mr, Clem Uzu and he will send the amount to you without any delay.

With best regards,

Barr,Michael

Don't these prats ever get tired of this? Barrister Michael has sent me this mail like thrice! I wish i could just wring his ears!

Singapore Fried Rice and a kiss!

2007-01-11T21:36:00.000+01:00

I need to start carrying a journal with me so i can jot down ideas when they spring to mind. Am i the only one who during the course of the day experiences something and makes a mental note to blog about it? Well i have had alotttttttt of those moments this week but for some reason it always skips my mind. This particular event didn't though....

Two days ago habibi and I decided to order chinese (i had been having some weird craving for singapore fried rice for ages!). Habibi dropped me off at the restaurant to place the order while he went to park the car. I had just placed our order when i felt someone kiss the back of my head.............habibi loves playing pranks big time but i knew it wasn't him that kissed my head.I was too freaked out to turn around to even confront the person (mind you there were 5 other people waiting to pick up their orders). Who could this freak possibly be?

Just before habibi walked in a young black man who i had hardly paid any attention too earlier moved to my right side (it dawned on me that he was the weirdo who kissed my head). On a good day i would have either slapped or cussed him out but i just felt like i ought to shut up i think it was more out of fear. As soon as habibi walked in (i gathered liver!) and told my husband what happened. He told me the guy was probably off his trolley and that i should just move away from Mr Weirdo. A few minutes later i had to pay for my order and Mr Weirdo decided to give me some of his money (u should have seen the look of horror on my face).

Fastforward five minutes he starts cussing at the t.v and two policemen walked in. Apparently he had gotten into an arguement with another customer prior to my arrival at the restaurant. He told the officers he suffered from autism and wasn't trying to get arrested again (guess this was a regular occurance with him). I sat there feeling so sorry for him eventhough he just invaded my space. I know of a professor from my old college who had two autistic children but i never really had any contact with them. This guy was probably in his late teens and already the path he has to take in life is jacked up. He kept marching around the restaurant, and even changed the 'open' sign at the door to 'closed'.

Its at moments liks this that i am truly grateful for who i am and what I am.All i kept saying after the officers left was 'oluwa mo dupe temi' (lord i am grateful for my portion in life).

Do check out Bisi and Ofon's page (got me feeling like having my wedding again!)

Congratulations to all the blog award winners

2007-01-04T21:36:00.000+01:00

Resolutions to be or not to be

Happy New Year everyone! 361 more days to go in this year and I am looking forward to every single day with all the surprises and blessings that are in store. I hope y’all had a wonderful holiday? Mine was special (since it was the first as a married person) and I didn’t have to do too much alase runs :). Xmas was spent at a family friend’s place and it was just relaxing (habibi and I also got xmas pressies from people we weren’t expecting anything from so that was a plus!)

Spent the 31st of December in the presence of God and it was definitely a fulfilling experience. Towards the end of 2006 habibi and I started working on a list of goals for 2007. We decided to get rid of the funk of having resolutions every year and not really accomplishing much. This year we have come up with goals and steps towards achieving them. Lord willing our long list of goals and wish list will be all struck out by the 31st of December 2007.

As an individual I have decided to also take stock of how I use my time this year which means I will be making more time to develop all aspects of my life. Funmi will be a well-balanced person by God’s grace this year. I have already started on that with spending alot more time listening to sermons from some of my favourite preachers. Do check out this site and if you are interested check out Chip Ingram’s sermons for the next few days on the Roman 12 christian.

I woke up on Sallah Day to the news of the death of Saddam Hussein. I honestly still find it hard to believe that the man who caused so much havoc in Iraq is gone. Personally I don’t think killing him was the best option (thank goodness I am not in the shoes of those who made that decision). Filming the process of ending a person’s life in my opinion is the most barbaric thing that can ever be done. I have heard that a clip of him being killed is now in circulation that is just sad. What do we intend to get from gratifying ourselves with watching him breathe his last breath? I even dare to say may his soul rest in peace.

The year ended with me reconciling with my spiritual dad (long story for another blog). It taught me of the need to stop procrastinating and ensuring I get myself right with whoever I am holding a grudge against. I feel a lot lighter now that we spoke and aired our issues.

I also took the time to check out Daddy Adeboye’s prophecies for the year as well as some other people’s. One thing that sticks to mind is that lukewarmness will be rewarded (negatively of course). I have decided to make this year be the year when my trailblazing will begin. I have also decided that I will ACT and not REACT to circumstances and situations I face this year. Please remember Nigeria in your prayers this year my dear motherland needs a divine touch this year with the upcoming elections and all. The demonstration of craze that is now going on can't continue.

Just found out Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles will be in cinema this year I am so excited about that (there is something about going back to being a carefree teenager again even if it’s just for 80 minutes!) Finally the Pursuit of Happyness with my baby lol will be at the cinema next week (already have a hot date with habibi set).

Here is praying that the best of 2006 will be the worst of 2007 for everyone of us.

2006-12-26T15:21:00.000+01:00

Happy Birthday Biodun

Its one of my favorite bloggers birthday today. Here is hoping all your wishes come true. Long life and all the other feferities :). Happy birthday girl i hope today is as special as you are.It is also Calabar Girl's birthday as well. Hope you had a great day and you were able to get some good bargain with the boxing day sales?

Found the ideal cake for you ladies :) (we just need to replace laura's name there with Biodun and CG lol)

2006-12-22T00:28:00.000+01:00

Happy Holidays

These past few days has been sort of busy. Just finished acting as an 'alase again (i seriously need to look into this catering gig). Just got this from a friend and thought i should share. What do you guys think?

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Got this forwarded from a friend and thought i'ld share it

F A M I L Y

I ran into a stranger as he passed by, "Oh excuse me please" was my reply.

He said, "Please excuse me too; I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I.

We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,

How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,

My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.

"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.

I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed, God's still small voice came to me and said,

"While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use,

but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor, You'll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you.

He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,

And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed; "Wake up, little one, wake up,"

I said. "Are these the flowers you picked for me?"

He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree. I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.

I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn't have yelled at you that way." He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay. I love you anyway."

I said, "Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.

But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think? So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means? FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

As chessy as i found this fwd it hit a nerve and got my attention (real good).Even as we get ready for the holidays please try (hard) to make it special for your loved ones by being thoughtful.

To those going away for the holidays have a safe trip and have fun. Merry Xmas everyone.

2006-12-15T22:52:00.000+01:00

Saying goodbye................................

I heard 'it's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday' today and i bursted into tears. That song always brings back alot of memories. I am one of those people who given a chance would get into 'Dr Who's lil phone booth' and go back in time. There are so many things about my past i would change honestly. I can just hear you guys saying my past has made me who i have become and i should cherish every part of it(true dat) but still i would change a few things :)

Its been a decade since i left high school and alot has happened. I would do anything to be back in my pinafore going 'across' to tuckshop to get my pepsi and sausage rolls missing the sausages! I miss being 12 again! Not that i am not glad to be where i am! Lord i am grateful i love my life and i am glad to be where i am at the moment. I am just a tad bit emotional tonight.....

Just going down memory lane.........all the friends i have lost along the way too numerous to mention. Relationships i had thought i would be able to boast about dying so quickly. This song just makes the memories so fresh. Some of these friends i met while in secondary school and they will always hold a special place in my heart even though we don't talk anymore. Miss you girls so much extension classes was just the best time i ever shared with u guys.

While in college i made some wonderful friends, had a lil misunderstanding and it all fizzled out. Those girls were my dawgs for life back then. We had MSN IM down like that, we just clicked like that.They are doing big things now and i am so proud of them (just wish i could be a part of their lives again) but we seem to have outgrown ourselves......I didn't even realise i had all this balled up until i saw tears coming down and had flashbacks of moments spent with all these people.

So much time has passed it feels almost impossible to now try and pick up where we stopped. Actually went out for lunch once with one of my old friends and there was nothing to talk about (i felt so awful). I really do respect this girl alot and would love for things to be different but eh what's a sister to do?

To top it all up the newest group of friends i just made just showed they weren't who they really claimed to be. It hurts alot thinking that all those memories are all i have left now.........It truly is hard to say goodbye to yesterday especially when what was shared was special.Here is to all my old friends (i know things can never be how they were before) but i really do miss you guys alot every single one of you. I miss all the coded conversations, the late night fone calls,chatting till the wee hours of the night online, the wild partying, man drama, the lil fights, prayering sessions, the pigging out moments.................thanks for all the sweet memories.

2006-12-13T20:35:00.000+01:00

He only gets better like old wine ;)

I must be living under a rock or sumthin, i only found out today that 'I call it love' was done by Lionel Richie. Lionel is one of my fave of all times from 'hello' to 'ballerina girl' to 'penny lover' that's a man that knows how to drop the tunes. I always hear 'i call it love' on the radio but i seem to miss the part where the name of the artiste is mentioned. I just figured it was Lemar who did the song.Talking of the radio u.k bloggers anyone listen to magic 105.4? There is this competition that has been going on for the past 6 months its called magic mystery voices the jackpot is now on 84k if i am right. What i would do to get the money hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Here is to the one man who's nose job i liked :)

2006-12-13T17:52:00.000+01:00

Some mothers do have them!

Only in America would this happen!

2006-12-13T11:49:00.000+01:00

Of fraud, blog beta (not) and an interview.

Ok i have had to do woosah like several times since yesterday. What in the flipping 'eggs' is wrong with blog beta? I have been struggling to post up messages on a few of my favourite blogs. Blog beta shouldn't even try that mess with me at all o!

Lately i have been receiving alot of all these scam mails alot. I think it has something to do with xmas coming. They are looking for some dollars to chop (not). I never read these mails (simply click on delete) but this morning i decided to humor myself.

This is from a 'new' friend Mr Salgado

DEAREST ONE, I AM MR. FELIPE SALGADO, I LIVE AND WORK IN UK WITH A FINANCE COMPANY WHICH I WILL LATER DISCLOSE THE NAME TO YOU AS WE GO FURTHER, I AM AWARE THAT THIS LETTER WILL GET TO YOU AS A SUPPRISE AS WE HAVE NOT KNOWN EACH OTHER BEFORE AND WITH THE KIND OF FRAUD THAT GOES ON IN THE INTERNET TODAY ONE WILL FIND IT VERY HARD TO BELIEVE THIS. LET ME BE VERY BRIEF HERE AND MAKE MY POINT.

AS THE CREDIT MANAGER IN THIS FINANCIAL INSTITUTION I AM WORKING WITH, I HAVE THE POWERS OF CREDITING INTO YOUR CREDIT CARD ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT YOUR CREDIT CARD CAN CARRY (dang boy credit card can carry! this right here shows dude is not based in the U.K) OR IF YOU HAVE EQUITY LINE OF CREDIT ACCOUNT I CAN ALSO PAY IN ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY IT CAN CARRY PROVIDED YOU FURNISH ME (furnish him! i am now a carpenter!) WITH THE CORRECT INFORMATIONS OF THE LINE OF CREDIT OR CREDIT CARD, I HAVE A MEANS OF COVERING IT UP HERE AND IT WILL NOT BE TRACED IN THE NEAR FUTURE AND ALL THAT YOU NEEDED TO DO IS TO TAKE YOUR OWN PERCENTAGE WHICH I AND MY COLEAGE HAVE AGREED TO GIVE YOU 30% OF WHAT EVER WE PUT INTO YOUR CREDIT CARD OR EQUITY LINE OF CREDIT AND WE WILL TAKE 70% FROM WHICH WE WILL USE PART OF IT TO CLEAN THE RECORD OF THE TRANSFER TO AVOID FUTURE PROBLEM OR TRACES.

THIS TRANSACTION CAN LAST AS LONG AS WE REMAIN HERE AND AS LONG AS YOU ARE HONEST TO US BY SENDING OUR OWN SHARE OF THE MONEY WITHOUT SITTING ON IT, BEAR INMIND THAT THIS IS STRICTLY DEAL THAT WILL MAKE US WHATEVER WE WANT TO BE IN LIFE IF WE CAN BE SINCERE TO EACH OTHER AND THERE IS NO LEGAL DOCUMENT NEEDED TO BACK IT UP AS OUR SAFETY AND YOUR SAFETY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT. THIS IS 100% ILLEGAL BUT HIGHLY RISK FREE BECAUSE I AM INCHARGE AND WILL TAKE CARE OF EVRYTHING MYSELF. WAITING TO HEAR FROM YOU IF YOU ARE INTRESTED. CONTACT ME WITH THIS: EMAIL ADDRESS:donfelipe_salgado@myway.com
YOURS SINCERELY, MR.FELIPE SALGADO.

This got me thinking, seriously how stupid and greedy are all these people that get scammed through the net. Chai! dude is saying it is 100% illegal but some ignoramus will still be tempted. When i got this mail i thought about the ABC documentary that has caused a bit of hopla in the past few days and i can't help but laugh at the fact that the joke really is on all those scammed. I am sorry o, i am all for dealing with all those silly boys that are dragging the name of my beautiful country down the drain. But shouldn't the greedy victims also be punished?

I am seriously thinking of replying Felipe lol i want to see what the next mail will look like. What do you guys think?

On a lighter note, i rec'd this from one of my friends and it really encouraged me. Enjoy

12 days to xmas yipee!

2006-12-11T23:16:00.000+01:00

Finally picked up 'Purple Hibiscus' and i am loving every single page (London Buki thanks for recommending this book). Chimamanda definately has a way with words.I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. 2 weeks to xmas yipee. My sister was asking me if i had put up a tree???? It didn't even cross my mind....habibi thought of it but he saw i wasn't too keen.Guess i need to make sure that doesn't repeat itself next year :) will hopefully go the whole nine yards next year (by God's grace).

Name that tune:

I scarcely understand
How a simple servant can be called the great I Am
How the Son of God Is still the Son of man

Both the Shepherd and the Lamb

The healer and the Wounded One

2006-12-11T11:42:00.000+01:00

Rest in peace Pastor Bims

Yesterday (10/12/2006) made it a year since the horrible Sosoliso air crash took place. I will live to remember that day because the lives of so many children who would have impacted the nation of Nigeria for good were wasted. Also the life of one of the greatest servants of God to grace the great continent of Africa was cut short.

I was never fortunate enough to meet Pastor Bimbo in person but i always watched her show on TV, read her articles in City People and This Day Sunday magazine. To top it all up a friend blessed me with her book a few months into my courtship with my habibi. This post is just to testify to the impact this wonderful woman had in my life even without having any personal contact with her.

Pastor Bimbo's book changed my views in so many ways concerning marriage. She reminded me of the need not to make my non-negiotiables negiotiables simply because of impatience or pressure from external factors. She always talked about the need to preserve one's self for that special person and above all she didn't make it seem impossible. What i loved the most about this woman was the fact that she loved God and never made apologies for that. She also had good taste in fashion. After her death i met a few people who either knew her or had some contact with her and they all said the same thing about her : she was a humble woman of God.

I would recommend her book to everyone: single, married, engaged, or undecided. Pastor Bimbo's only book will be a real blessing to you. After reading her back last year summer i bought 6 more and blessed a few of my friends with it. Last time i checked the book goes for somewhere between 550 to 800 naira back in naija. It is worth every single kobo of it :).

Wrote this in my journal on the 13th of December 2005:

Pastor Bimbo Odukoya was a passenger on the ill-fated Sosoliso flight three days ago. I keep waking up thinking of her - Daddy she was on your side and you called her up so early. What says am not next? She was truly sold out for you. A great soldier has been called up to meet the others - Derek Prince, Adrian Rigers. Daddy please help me refocus.She lived with a purpose and even in death her memories will be cherished.Adieu Pastor Bims. Rest in absolute peace in the bossom of our creator. We will miss you. I will miss your insightful entries in the dailies. Thank you for sowing a seed (it will not die). When the saints are marching on I know I will see you. Rest in peace.

In just 45 years you left marks (footprints) in so many lives. You have been called up to receive your reward.As much as it hurts I take solace in the fact that you are resting. I bless God for the day your mother had you. You were truly the epitome of womanhood. You made the proverbs 31 woman look ordinary! Thank you for making me realize it is possible to be a godly woman even as the days are drawing near. I pray for Pastor Taiwo and your three kids Lord embrace them tightly.Comfort them, strengthen them, shield them. These are truly trying time for them.Truly let your joy be their strength

Wow! typing this up just brought chills down my spine: i never knew her but she impacted my life for good. For that i celebrate her life.

Rosemary Bimbo Odukoya Sun Re o

Do check out : Her Foundation , Site memory, Blog in her memory, Mona's Blog, Fountain of Life and her passion.

Does anyone know how i can get copies of some of her previous sermons?

2006-12-05T19:37:00.000+01:00

Remedies, jollof rice and the loo

The owambe i went for at the weekend was just as i thought it would be......a huge success. The party was slated to start at 4pm but trust people and their CPT people didn't show up till almost 8pm. Why do people do that? I am very time conscious so it always gets on my nerves when people don't keep to time. The hall was rented for 7 hours so u can imagine how ticked off the parents of the celebratants were.

By 8.30pm the hall was filled up and adults had to stand outside, food was overflowing and so were the drinks. I hadn't seen a bottle of 'star' or 'gulder' in ages (there was an infinite supply of that). I and a couple of other young ladies were the designated 'servers' after all my story about it was a buffet type gig ended up soiling my CT shirt :). I served food so much my poor back that was already killing me almost gave in! I had to sit down for almost an hour to get my poor back in order.

A party can only be a success in my opinion when there is good music. The DJ at this owambe did not disappoint me at all. When my back was acting up he played some fuji music (which i can't stand i must say) and it got a few people dancing,he flipped and started playing remedies old tunes and ayuba's newer version of 'its bubbling' 'ijo ti mo jo yen o to rara'........suddenly my back that had completely given up on me got back in line! I tell u it was a miracle!

He played alot of oldies and to cap it all off he moved on to tunes from the early nineties all the grown ups went crazy! I am a firm believer in less is more.......last time i went partying was in september (so u know i had some reserved dancing energy!).At about 10.55pm Mr DJ plays Shina Peter's song not ace but the one after that and we all went buck wild (u would have thought the people dancing were on some drugs!). At 11pm sharply the caretaker showed her face and like reflex we all screamed 'ONE FOR THE ROAD' lol it reminded me of all them house parties in lagos. Sweet memories :)

After the music stopped we had to deal with moving coolers and ish like that to the car......can someone please explain why people must always take 'CARRY GO' with them. See ladies hustling for jollof rice, efo, salad and chicken (i was abit irritated). There was this grown ass man who had too much to drink and started calling every lady he saw sweetheart....dude almost got fresh with me but habibi was right there to put him in check. If u can't handle your drink don't drink.

The only bad side to the owambe was that habibi and I woke up with really upset stomachs....it lasted for 2 days. I was out yesterday when i had the urge to go to the loo (i mean it was badddd i was sweating and all......i am sure the people on the bus thought i was loco).Thank goodness its all over now.

Finally decided to take a few steps in the right direction instead of whining about all the things i haven't accomplished this year. I headed down to our local library and signed up :) got a few books (i didn't know sidney sheldon's daughter wrote as well got a few of her books will let u know how that goes) and reserved 'purple hibiscus' (london buki it better be as good as u say it is ). That's one thing off my list of things i need to do......

Hope y'all had a great weekend?

Name that tune:

We are lovers true and through

And though we made it through the storm

I really want you to realize

I really want to put you on

2006-12-02T10:58:00.000+01:00

Owambe and so on and so forth

Yesterday was extremely tiring a family friend of habibi's is having a party for his kids today. When we rec'd the invite last month i just thought it would be a lil bash u know rice, chicken, cake and drinks but i was so wrong. Went to help the mum of the celebrants yesterday and i was greeted with massive bowls of meat, chicken and orisirisi like that. Since i volunteered to help with cooking the meat i had to get into 'alase' (u know dem hired cooks back in lagos ) mode.....to be honest i had mad fun (i am weird like that).

Alot of nigerians in london love parties toooo much hanhan i was amazed at how much stuff this aunty had stored up in her garage. She is who i would call a party pro.....large pots, chaffing dishes and ish like that. She also delegated various dishes to her friends to cook.........and i was told to fry the plantains lol. If only she knows that i and plantains don't see eye 2 eye (when i was alot younger i would eat the plantains while they were still being fried i am that bad!)

Woke up this morning and my lower back is killing me from bending down to clean the meat....

Will keep u posted on how the party goes :)

Happy Birthday TemmyTayo......here is hoping all your wishes come true. Will be waiting for you at Gatwick so we can head off to spain :). Enjoy your day and make sure u keep my cake.

2006-11-30T22:16:00.000+01:00

25 days to xmas yipee!!!

It finally dawned on me (xmas is really around the corner). Rec'd my first xmas card today and it was from overseas :) (i felt really special in a good way that is ). It just hit me i now have to start buying cards and gifts to send out to friends and family and of course look out for really tyte e-cards :).

There is this house to close the station where i live the owner has been working on the front porch (laying bricks) since august. Habibi and I always make fun of the man bcos we keep wondering what is taking the man so longgggggggg.On some days you will see the man digging and digging like he intends to build a well or sumthin! Other days dude will be measuring stuff on the ground. what made it worse was that someone else close by just started working on his porch as well and was done in less than a week.

Anywayz i passed by the man's house today and his porch is finally done -looking lovely i dare say (it was absolutely worth the slow coach runs!). It finally hit me that is just like my life.....i can't keep expecting to get 'the porch' ready in a week God's plan is so different. He wants to take His time to make sure i am blinging when its all said and done :)

Tomorrow is World Aids Day check out Olawunmi's blog

Do check out Uzo's soundbyte.....

Name that tune (bonus q)

Just drifting away

Staring into the windows of the world

I can't hear the teacher

His books don't call me at all

2006-11-29T21:59:00.000+01:00

Ticking away so quickly :(

Having an off day tonight..........i feel like such an ingrate worrying about all i haven't been able to accomplish this year (its the last day of november tomorrow lawd have mercy). Just finished having a lil pity party (guess who the guest of honor was!). There is so much i had hoped to accomplish this year ( i am too scared to get my journal and go through the list)

My habibi has being such a help.......consoling me with nice words and a lovely bear hug :) but i just feel so funny. He has recommended i read the book of Job(now that will put any whiner in check!). Had plans for every facet of my life and to be honest i haven't even scratched surface in any of these areas (looks like someone will have to be super busy in december). Thank goodness for people that keep me in check when i start to feel sorry for myself :my habibi and my immediate lil sis.

Arrggggggghhhh i wish i could just get to the top of some mountain and just scream my lungs out..........this is definately a sign that i need to spend more time on my knees (its been long since i really had a quality time in His presence). Any suggestions?

Food for the soul : Five minutes after death

2006-11-29T16:34:00.000+01:00

Do u know how much bacteria you carry in that bag?

A few days ago i received this article from a friend. Thought i should share...........

Have you ever noticed gals who sit their handbags on public toilet floors> - then go directly to their dining tables and set it on the table? Happens a lot!

Mum got so upset when guests came in the door and plopped their handbags down on the counter where she was cooking or setting up food. She always said that handbags are really dirty, because of where they have been.Smart Mum!!! It's something just about every woman carries with them. While we may know what's inside our handbags, do you have any idea what's on the outside? Shauna Lake put handbags to the test - for bacteria - with surprising results. You may think twice about where you put your handbag. Women carry handbags everywhere; from the office to public toilets to the floor of the car.

Most women won't be caught without their handbags, But did you ever stop to think about where your handbag goes during the day? I drive a school bus, so my handbag has been on the floor of the bus alot," says one woman. "On the floor of my car, and in toilets." "I put my handbag in grocery shopping carts, on the floor of the toilet while changing a nappy," says another woman "and of course in my home which should be clean." We decided to find out if handbags harbour a lot of bacteria. We learned how to test them at Nelson Laboratories in Salt Lake, and then we set out to test the average woman's handbag.Most women told us they didn't stop to think about what was on the bottom of their handbag. Most said at home they usually set their handbags on top of kitchen tables and counters where food is prepared. Most of the ladies we talked to told us they wouldn't be surprised if their handbags were at least a little bit dirty.

It turns out handbags are so surprisingly dirty, even the microbiologist who tested them was shocked.Microbiologist Amy Karen of Nelson Labs says nearly all of the handbags tested were not only high in bacteria, but high in harmful kinds of bacteria. Pseudomonas can cause eye infections, staphylococcus aurous Can cause serious skin infections, and salmonella and e-coli found on the handbags could make people very sick. In one sampling, four of five handbags tested positive for salmonella, and that's not the worst of it. "There is fecal contamination (ewwww) on the handbags," says Amy. Leather or vinyl handbags tended to be cleaner than cloth handbags, and lifestyle seemed to play a role. People with kids tended to have dirtier handbags than those without, with one exception. The handbag of one single woman who frequented nightclubs had one of the worst contaminations of all. "Some type of feces, or possibly vomit" (that's just nasty)says Amy. So the moral of this story - your handbag won't kill you, but it does have the potential to make you very sick if you keep it on places where you eat.

Use hooks to hang your handbag at home and in toilets, and don't put it on your desk, a restaurant table, or on your kitchen countertop.Experts say you should think of your handbag the same way you would a pair of shoes. "If you think about putting a pair of shoes onto your countertops, that's the same thing you're doing when you put your handbag on the countertops" - your handbag has gone where individuals before you have sneezed, coughed, spat, urinated, emptied bowels, etc! Do you really want to bring that home with you? The microbiologists at Nelson also said cleaning a handbag will help. Wash cloth handbags and use leather cleaner to clean the bottom of leather handbags.

2006-11-29T16:15:00.000+01:00

Sending my biography (not)

I have been receiving mails in my yahoo box from someone called T.O for the past year. At times she sends love poems, short mails and even her CV to my inbox. I am guessing her man based far away from her has an email address similiar to mine. I must confess i never bothered to reply to her mails bcos i figured she will get the drift that her mails are going to la la land after sometime.But i was wrong..... I received another mail from her today (and in honour of my new found self :) I decided to send her this mail

Hi T.O

You keep sending mails to my inbox for 'XXXXXX YZBXXXX' but i don't know who the person is. Please check the email addy properly.

Regards

Funmi

This lady now replies with this:

Thanks for your reply. Pls could you tell me more about yourself? Is like i'm mistaking you for somebody i know. Or are you Funmi from Upper Room Baptist Church? Thank you.

Like ok i am about to start composing a brief bio of myself and sending it off. Couldn't she have just replied : o ma bad thought i had the right address sorry for feeling your inbox with all my lovey dovey stuff.

Some mothers do have them!

2006-11-27T21:34:00.000+01:00

How have u been?

I have been playing good hostess for the past week as a result my blog visits were reduced (a week from blogville and it seems so much has happened). Had family over for a week and it was a blast.I didn't realise how beautiful London was until i had to act as a tour guide for my guests. Visited London Eye (i honestly don't see the point of it to be honest but it was a good experience), Buckingham Palace, Traflagar Square, Madame Tussads, London Dungeon and of course Peckham Rye.

Next year i intend to visit alot more 'touristy' stuff in London i realised i took so much for granted from my family being over.There isn't much going on per se in my world just the usual mudane activities of daily life (which i am truly grateful for). Didn't get to go for FOL and i am still very bitter because i had to go down to Buckingham to see my baby sister (what is it with that town and not having signs to show there was a uni there arrghhhhhhhh). This trip taught me that i had to invest quickly in a sat-nav system before its too late!

Last week i met an old friend online and we got talking (the usual catch up). He congratulated me on my recent change in status and decided to keep me up2date on our mutual friends. He sent me a link about an old friend.....on checking the link out i found out that my friend had killed his mum. Yes your eyes are not deceiving you his mum...........i have been replaying the possible scenario in my head and i can't seem to wrap my brains around it. What was going thru his mind when he decided to commit this abomination is beyond me. So last week i mourned the loss of a friend...........he is crossed over to a path that only the Almighty can pull him out from. He was such a fun-loving and intelligent boy. He had a few issues a few years back but i always thought he had dealt with them (i guess i was wrong).

Its amazing how the year is almost wrapping up wasn't it just independence day a few weeks ago? After reading Adaure's piece on thanksgiving i did a quick recap of 2006 and i realised alleluyah meje o to rara (isn't enough). God truly has been faithful in so many ways.......beginning of this year habibi and I almost called it quits (the toll of keeping a ldr and all the distractions weren't helping at all). Fast forward ten months we are playing the same tune. My siblings have all had various issues this year and somehow God always made a way out of all the chaos. This year i learnt what the true meaning of friendship was......i have always thought i had loads of people i could count on when things got messy (unfortunately this year alotttt of people showed their true colors and i was shocked). I guess i should be glad but sometimes it hurts (all those years invested into building the rships was just a waste).

Finally decided that i need to fight this battle of the bulge..........i don't know what happened it seems someone came and added pounds of 'phat' on me overnight. Its not even funny at all.........i got the lateral thigh trainer a few months back and i keep looking at it (wish that would help with the weight loss). I have finally decided to take the bull by the horns and starting from tomorrow (u were expecting me to type today nahhhhh i need to hype myself up first) i will start doing 30 mins of exercise. The pounds just piled up without giving me any notice so now its WAR! (wish me luck)

Please check out Yellow Ibo Girl's page.........i thought it was quite intense

Miguel's thesis on the games women play is finally ready....do check it out

Name that tune:

One thing that never changes

No matter whatI cant wait to see you

Cant wait to feel youAnd theres a place of our own, where we can go

2006-11-19T16:06:00.000+01:00

My habibi

Its four days left before thanksgiving in the states. Yesterday's 'food for soul reading' was psalm 50

THE MIGHTY One, God, the Lord, speaks and calls the earth from the rising of the sun to its setting.
2 Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God shines forth.
3 Our God comes and does not keep silence; a fire devours before Him, and round about Him a mighty tempest rages.
4 He calls to the heavens above and to the earth, that He may judge His people:
5 Gather together to Me My saints [those who have found grace in My sight], those who have made a covenant with Me by sacrifice.
6 And the heavens declare His righteousness (rightness and justice), for God, He is judge. Selah [pause, and calmly think of that]!
7 Hear, O My people, and I will speak; O Israel, I will testify to you and against you: I am God, your God.
8 I do not reprove you for your sacrifices; your burnt offerings are continually before Me.
9 I will accept no bull from your house nor he-goat out of your folds.
10 For every beast of the forest is Mine, and the cattle upon a thousand hills or upon the mountains where thousands are.
11 I know and am acquainted with all the birds of the mountains, and the wild animals of the field are Mine and are with Me, in My mind.
12 If I were hungry, I would not tell you, for the world and its fullness are Mine.
13 Shall I eat the flesh of bulls or drink the blood of goats?
14 Offer to God the sacrifice of thanksgiving, and pay your vows to the Most High,
15 And call on Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall honor and glorify Me.
16 But to the wicked, God says: What right have you to recite My statutes or take My covenant or pledge on your lips,
17 Seeing that you hate instruction and correction and cast My words behind you [discarding them]?
18 When you see a thief, you associate with him, and you have taken part with adulterers.
19 You give your mouth to evil, and your tongue frames deceit.
20 You sit and speak against your brother; you slander your own mother's son.
21 These things you have done and I kept silent; you thought I was once entirely like you. But [now] I will reprove you and put [the charge] in order before your eyes.
22Now consider this, you who forget God, lest I tear you in pieces, and there be none to deliver.
23He who brings an offering of praise and thanksgiving honors and glorifies Me; and he who orders his way aright [who prepares the way that I may show him], to him I will demonstrate the salvation of God.

Daddy i am thankful for my habibi. Thank you for blessing me with my best friend and confidant as a life partner. Its not been so long since we tied the knots but you have tested us in

so many ways (for that i say thank you). Thank you for blessing me with someone who knows how to press my buttons (thus teaching me tolerance and patience). Thank you for giving me a man who has a mind of his own and loves you. Thank you for blessing me with someone who sees me as his other half and not his footmat.

If there is one person who knows so much about me and still puts up with it..that's my habibi.

He has got my back when nobody else has....

Everyday when i rise i am grateful to God that i have someone i can call my dawg4life

When i was at my lowest and thought there was absolutely no reason to live he was there for me

He brings out the absolute best in me (and of course the worst :) )

I had been looking for my TTP for ages

But just at the nick of time the Most High blessed me with my number one stunna

Baby this is to many many years of joy, peace, madddd fun and lil squabbles with you

My big baby thank you for proving to me that naija men are the best EVA!

Please check out Nneka's page a beautiful gbosa to our naija men :)

2006-11-19T15:22:00.000+01:00

An invitation

The bi-annual Holy Ghost service held in London by the Redeemed Christian Church of God takes place this friday (24th November) at Excel. If u happen to be in 'the area' do come and take part in this wonderful experience. The theme for this year is Divine Visitation.......try and make it a date.

2006-11-18T01:18:00.000+01:00

Thanks Bijouxoxo for sharing this link i am totally enjoying myself. Certainly brings back sweet memories of Nigeria.Anyone know how i can get the songs on the 'redeemed church cd'?

2006-11-17T23:39:00.000+01:00

Friends

The past few days have been sort of revealing for me. Two people i hold very dearly sent me really touching emails expressing their heartfelt appreciation for having their backs. To be honest i have never being a recipient of such before so i thought they were going off their trolley. Don't get me wrong i love my friends (if there is one thing i have down its loyalty i take it seriously) but besides the usual 123greetings ecard to say hi and long time miss u ishhhh i have never received anything so deeeppppppp.

It really got me thinking alot......how often do i tell people who matter the most in my life that they do matter? The first email i received was from my male friend who i will call R.K on the 15th. Met him last year while i was serving in lagos and he was there for me through my man drama to adjusting to d madness of moving to lagos He is like the big brother i was never blessed with. When i think of the popular saying 'friends are the siblings that destiny forgot to give me' he comes to mind. So getting a mail from him saying all the nice things about me was weird....this is someone i enjoy teasing alot (i better chill on that now).

I checked my mail today and saw another mail from a friend of mine who i will call D.F. Also met D.F during my service year in lagos. I honestly can't remember how we started talking but we just sort of clicked.She wasn't exactly the model corper but i tried to encourage her along way.....getting a mail from her today with a poem attached to it honestly made my day. If there is one thing i am most grateful to God for its that i took a well deserved break from the daily grind of living in London and went home to serve. Nysc isn't as bad as people make it out to be. I had mad fun in Iyana Ipaja camp (will have to blog about that soon) and i got to meet really cool people i might never have met were it not for NYSC. I learnt one thing this week thru the mails from .DF and R.K - those lil things you do to put a smile in someone's life really does make a difference. Even if the person doesn't express it right now sometime down the line they will. Trust me if u knew these 2 people u will understand why this is such a big deal......

This is therefore my first 'gratitude entry' to get into the thanksgiving mode :)

I am grateful to God for the NYSC scheme. It brought out the best and worst in me(had to hustle to get everything done!). Thank you lord for all the wonderful people who crossed my path especially the 'noise makers' of the 2005 batch b platoon ten set. miss you guys

2006-11-17T17:07:00.000+01:00

Rest in peace

Its with deep regret that i announce the disappearance of Temmy's blog. I can only imagine how painful it must be to have all your lovely writings disappear. The last article i can remember reading was that aboout your mum coming over and thinking of giving her up for a loan lol. Our mothers do know how to press them buttons. Temmy don't let this pull you down girl.......i am sure this will only allow the literary juices to flow. Do check out temmy's new home .

2006-11-15T22:59:00.000+01:00

Feathers, twist, ghana weaving.

I finally decided to stop being an ijebu girl and got my hair done. Going to the hairdressers is always an experience for me........in lagos i always loved going to downtown salon they just have a way of cracking me up (too much estrogen in a confined space). First there was this guy who walked in with a bin bag full of fake designer bags. If u want to rock a fake bag its all love (in my opinion) but not a bag that looks like 'nylon bag'! What really caught my attention was this man who paid so much attention to all that was going on and later bought one for his woman.

Ladies please be honest......your man walks home after a long days work and hands u a VERY fake bag would u be sincerely grateful. I wished i could just see the expression on the babe's face........Now u know a visit to the hairdressers will not be complete without the lil chinese man coming in with his pirate Cds. Those people have now expanded their base to include Sainsburys car park (i honestly cannot stand them........trying to reap where they haven't sown psssshhhh)

My entire day was spent at the hairdressers so u know it was full of petty talk here and there........Hope u all had a beautiful day?

Name this song:

Constant pressures no scale can measure.....We can be like bonnie & clyde
by your side.....I'll be more than a lover

2006-11-14T23:26:00.000+01:00

Name that tune:

Am so glad you are my girl, i'll do anything for you.............i want you to know i do it all for love

2006-11-14T19:26:00.000+01:00

Messenger

Earlier on today someone on my msn messenger decided to say hi! The funny part is that we had never chatted before (she added me on to her list during 'the confluence' era). The first thing she said was that 'she was cool' and the only reason she was doing this was because someone had confronted her online. Apparently the person felt she might be a 419 person or some ish like that. I have 92 names on my msn messenger list and the truth is that i rarely say a word to 75% of the people the reasons are just too many:

I have completely forgotten who the person is and feel its rude to start grilling
We rarely have anything to say after hi! wassup! and lol
They were part of my past
I never knew the person!

I have various groups on my list :forever amoir, friends, **** sistahs and other contacts. It just hit me today - what's the point of having all these people on my list if year in year out we completely ignore ourselves(it is best they are placed on my exile list (got that word from my new msn buddy)). I have now decided to do a messenger sanitation(wish me luck). Once anyone on my list comes online i will take the first step and say hi, if its someone i never actually knew, i will try and find where the missing link is. If there was never a link (these are the kind of people that click 'reply all' when a group mail is sent) i will just block and delete.

In other news the Governor of Plateau state Joshua Dariye has been impeached (like that was supposed to be a surprise).

Name that song:

Cocoa butter skin i can't wait till i get......................somebody's got to be on top.......
Song 2
For the will to carry on, for anything that's true......... cause your love is so amazing, cause your love inspires me.....

2006-11-13T21:48:00.000+01:00

And so on and so forth...........

This weekend was pretty uneventful.........nothing really happened on saturday apart from the fact that i practised my recorder. Going off on a tangent for a hot second :) my pastor teaches a few of us recorder classes every sunday. Initially i was the class olodo i just couldn't get the hang of using the recorder fastforward 5 weeks i am so on top of things now i am now a certified ajayi worker! I even practice songs we haven't started learning yet(showed everyone else what stuff i was made of yesterday!). That's a quick wrap up of my weekend.......o i forgot to mention my team showed the stuff they are really made of yesterday by whooping Liverpool's butt!

Later in the evening i decided to watch BEN TV (naija station on Sky) Bisi Olatilo's show was on. Donald Duke (the governor of Cross Rivers state) was declaring his intention to run for presidency come 2007. I am not too much a politics person per se but i was tripped by what i saw on t.v (that man has a lil bit of Bill Clinton/ JFK charisma going for him). His speech was titled 'Why i want your mandate' ( better listen here) (i have heard alotttttt of politicians and so called leaders give speeches before this was solid......and there was a genuineness about him). Mr Donald Duke definately has my vote come 2007. Please check out his blog and official campaign website .In any case please remember Nigeria in your prayers because the next seven months will be very vital to the survival of that great nation.

A friend of mine decided to punish me today by sending me this lil IQ test unfortunately its on excel and i can't seem to get blog to accept it(will keep trying though). Blog experts please help a sistah out.......Finally decided i need to get back to my first love: reading. I will be sharing on a few books that have completely turned my life around completely (bit by bit). There was something else i wanted to blog about but its skipped my mind.....will have to come back to that later.

Ladies do check out Miguel's blog....he has a poem that is sure to put a million dollar smile on your face.

Name that song:

All that time you went out with that other fellow.......i knew about it, i just didn't care.....pain in my head, i rather be dead

2006-11-09T20:50:00.000+01:00

Nigerian Jingles!

Hubby and I are about to hit this chinese buffet in abit (they don't know what's about to hit them) and i had this revelation! Anyone remember when commercials in naija were catchy????? I don't know how i started thinking of macleans toothpaste :)

Be successful, be important, USE MACLEANS TOOTHPASTE!!!!

Anyone interested in walking down the memory lane of naija adverts????

(seriously this is an addiction i should be heading downstairs see me still checking out blogs!)

2006-11-09T18:58:00.000+01:00

Rest in peace Mr Bradley

I was surfing through the net (like that's new!) when i got a message that Ed Bradley of 60 minutes had died of complications from leukaemia. I became a junkie of 60 minutes thanks to my Uncle and i was hooked on Ed and Andy Rooney's segment. You know how it is when u feel u connect with a presenter.The weirdest part is that i only just saw a piece he did on Michael Jordan on monday, tomorrow truly isn't promised to anyone.

O well, another one bites the dust...........what is it with all these deaths especially with xmas coming so soon. Lord please continue to build your hedge of protection around all that concerns me and everyone reading this. May his gentle soul rest in peace.

Name that tune

Come worth may, i will love you till the end of.........never knew i could feel like this

2006-11-08T17:04:00.000+01:00

What song tickles you ?

I didn't get to have a proper church wedding (my dad is a muslim) so i missed out on playing all the songs i had written down since i was 16. Just heard one of the songs being played on
launchcast and it sent shivers down my spine.

Name that tune

Bye bye sadness, hello .......i'll follow u to the moon and the sky above...........i could stay forever, forever......love brought us together........
My hubby and I have decided that we would still get to play those jams when we renew our vows but that's still 4 years away!!!! So what songs must Mr DJ play on your big day? The most important in my opinion is the song u walk into the church with..........i have a new found respect for 'speechless' my Michaal Jackson after it was played at a wedding i went for 4 years ago.

2006-11-07T23:17:00.000+01:00

Snoring wahala!

I love my baby to death but his snoring is killing me. We have been to the ear and nose doctor and a pump has been recommended(i for one am not in support of him using a tank to sleep). Now am beginning to regret it........really planned to type up a storm today unfortunately the background jamz isn't helping at all. I am not joking at all it is loudddddddddddddddddddddd.He has tried sleeping in various positions, using all them counter anti-snoring crap but ko sise(its not working). Someone help me!!!!!! I have now resorted to holding his nose for a few minutes(while he is sleeping!)

Name that tune:

the very first time that i saw your brown eyes.................promise that i'll
never leave u lonely....

2006-11-06T22:45:00.000+01:00

This weekend was pretty blah (borrowing Biodun's word), hubby and I spent quality time chilling at home. Finally learnt how to play draughts (checkers) and i most confess i am now an addict (though i keep losing). As usual we had friends over yesterday i totally love entertaining guests!

The verdict is out Saddam gets the death penalty. I personally don't think he deserves it though (after all the atrocities he commited he shouldn't get to go out with a bang like that). He should be locked up somewhere in Serberia or sumthin and the keys thrown away!

To more important stuvvs its seems the strike by unity schools in nigeria has gone up a notch! SSS are now being sent to arrest striking teachers. Click Here As a QCOG i am pretty ticked off at the level of deterioration of my alma mata (at this rate my mini-mes might never get to see quee cee in all its glory). It just saddens me to see how the education system keeps taking spiral shots downwards. What next?????

Finally decided to join the bandwagon and start my gratitude entry (thanks for the inspiration Diamond). I am thankful for the internet. Met alot of cool people via the net and reunited with loads of old friends. My college days were pretty lonely times but thanks to Hook Up Nigerians, The Confluence and Blackplanet i had enough company. Met one of my closest friends till date thru the confluence (she has been there through my man issues, her man issues and everything in between). Fast forward many years later i have caught the blog bug and its been a great ride (need to go for the next BA meeting) so far. I am thankful for sight (thank u Lord) to appreciate the various entries from my blog faves : Biodun, Vera, London Buki, Diamond, Miguel, Temmy,Overwhelmed NB and Bella Naija.

Name that song.....

"Girl i know its been hard since he went away...don't need a man that will give u
money" where were u when this song hit the airwaves?

2006-11-05T23:30:00.000+01:00

What do you think about this?

http://odili.net/news/source/2006/nov/5/214.html

2006-11-02T17:08:00.000+01:00

WHY????????????

Today started off as a normal day (hubby and I were indoors today). That hasn't happened in awhile so we took the time to really rest. After a quick lunch we decided to play a game of scrabble (he always whoops my butt big time) a good friend of mine from my old church called to say hello. I went on to tease him since his team lost yesterday, the next few words he said hit me harder than a tonne of bricks. " Funmi, i lost my dad in the crash", next thing i said was no bcos i ensured i checked the manifest and i did not see any familiar name. Then again naija manifest ain't always on point........

He was a good man (and i don't use that word lightly). To really know how good a father is, you need to check out his sons. My friend is a few years younger than me but he is a good person. I always said if not for the age difference i would marry him (alot of the other ladies in my old church share that opinion too). His future wife is totally blessed. He is God fearing, hardworking and totally respectful. I was priviledged to meet his dad a few years ago and i saw firsthand where my friend got all those good traits from. My friend's dad loved the Lord and he ensured all his kids were trained in the way of the Lord.

I have been crying ever since i heard this horrible news bcos my friend is soooooooooo young now he has to make really grown up decisions as the first child. I only take solace in the fact that his dad instilled the word of God in ALL his kids. He was a good dad in every sense of the word. Its a pity he won't be around to see his kids graduate or wed but i take comfort in the fact that he left a GOOD LEGACY and in Jesus name it will live on.

This is in the memory of my darling friend's daddy,Lord please comfort his wife and kids that he has left behind. May his gentle soul rest in the bossom of our Lord.

2006-11-01T22:35:00.000+01:00

Happy Birthday Sis!

I am blessed with three wonderful younger sisters and the cutest baby brother ever (dude looks like me i am told:) ). My second sister celebrated another year on this planet today wish i could see her and give her a big fat hug or better still pinch her. She is such a joy to be around, she is totally easy-going and things rarely get to her. She is so caring and generous (that child can give you her eyes and i am not exaggerating).She hasn't had things easy in life but she pulled through all the challenges with her shoulders high. Honestly nothing you say gets to her she just looks at you like you are off your trolley!

This is dedicated to one of my bundles of joy. OKOO (its an inside joke) wishing you the very best in all you lay your hands on. May the best of your past be the worst of your future. Here is to happiness, joy, peace of mind and all the other good stuff....Love you loads sis

2006-11-01T21:32:00.000+01:00

To the bride and groom......................

I have had so much to blog about for the past few days but my access to the net was disrupted I will start with the most recent. A friend of mine had her wedding yesterday in Leyton and it was a beautiful and eventful day. The church service was short and precise (i can still remember what the vicar preached about!) and of course the bride was stunning. Its amazing how much transformation takes place on a girl's big day ( i still look at some of my wedding pictures and honestly doubt it was me in the pictures!). The only hitch was that the best man forgot the ring luckily he realised his mistake before the bride arrived. I am abit of a cry baby i must confess so i don't really do church wedding because i always cry when the bride is coming in, this wasn't an exception (the tears rolled in immediately i set eyes on my friend).

The reception was also a classy affair (this was the first time that i saw naija peeps actually wait to be called to the buffet table and not try the whole can i please get some more 'bokoto' ' u know i have been waiting since now' stunts). I had to help with the coordinating of the food and all the other good stuff. Bless the groom's mum apart from helping me light up the burners for the chaffing dishes she stayed clear (more aunties need to learn that).

My friend and her husband were housemates a few years back and i used to tease her alot about how good they looked together. Fastforward one year, she calls me to say they were now dating (i was completely in stitches), a few months later they were engaged. Stories like their's really gives me hope that love still exists if we only just take the time to look around us.This hottie and his friend came to my church last year to check out a lady that was recommended as a good catch (naughty boys checking girls out in church!) (i can still remember thinking his friend was so cute!). He and the good catch finally met after service but there was no connection. Guess what usher made an impression on him that fateful sunday!!! Eleven months later we tied the knots and i can't help but wonder how amazing God truly is, He is in the business of hooking His children up big time. He hooked me up with a good man and did the same for my friend yesterday (there are very few good naija men out there so when u have one ladies celebrate him) I will blog on that later....

Like with most weddings there were a few hitches prior to the big day but it all fell through at the end and for that i am totally grateful to God. The best part of the evening for me was seeing the look of joy and total satisfaction in the eyes of the bride and groom as they walked into the hall.Here is to joy, peace, happiness, frutfulness and loads and loads of fun for many many years to my darling friend L and her wonderful husband.

Another air tragedy hits my beloved country Nigeria and as usual fingers are being pointed again. Tape Transcript of ill fated flight what do you think? May the souls of the victims rest in peace.

2006-10-26T20:29:00.000+01:00

Where do we draw the line?

This week has been sort of busy ( will go into that later). Look out for brimful of asha lol

Decided to go thru my usual hotspots online only to get hit by this article on nigeriaworld.com

Growing up i was what you would call a stubborn goat and mennnnn did i get my share of 'chopping cane'. Looking back in retrospect, some of the 'deckings' weren't needed but the truth is it kept me in check. When i read stories like this article i keep wondering - when did this parent cross the line of sanity to insanity?

My folks might have done a few things that would definately be branded as child abuse out here e.g slapping the taste out of my mouth or my mum's favourite (giving me serious 'abara') but it NEVER got to this point. Was this man trying to cast out a spirit from his kid or what?????? Now that i am married ( and by His grace will become a parent) i know for a fact that spanking will be part of the routine for raising my kids. One thing i have learnt though is that it should be done with LOVE ( Bjouxoxo had an article where she mentioned her mum always explained why they were being disciplined - i will definately take that onboard). Alottttttttttttttt of folks hit their kids out of frustration which is where the sanity line is crossed.......Lawddddddd have mazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyy on us all, truth is raising a kid in this part of this world needs God without Him there is bound to be katakata

Do check out Bhookey's blog Eldee dedicated a beautiful song to the memory of Morakinyo Akinkoye.

2006-10-22T22:00:00.000+01:00

Where were u???

Exactly a year today i overheard my dad mention that a Bellview plane that left from Lagos to Abuja was missing. To be honest it didn't really register in my head (i just kept thinking how can a plane go missing). The next morning (Sunday 23rd October 2005) the reality of what happened the night before hit me hard.......the missing plane was found in Lisa, Ogun State (crashed) along with it mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, breadwinners. I was totally confused i kept calling all my 'ajala travel' friends to ensure they were safe. Luckily i got through to most of them.

The Bellview plane crash didn't hit home directly but during the course of that week i learnt an old classmate's mum was in the crash (Mrs Sokenu) along side a friend of one of my closest friends (Mrs Bimbo Babalola nee Ojora). To add to the already dark day was the death of our First Lady Stella Obasanjo. I kept wondering what really went wrong? Granted most of the planes that go the domestic route in naija are moving death traps this just doesn't normally happen in Nigeria. A few months back i travelled to Abuja using Chanchangi or whatever it calls itself and i was scareddddddddddddddd those 50 minutes onboard were the longest i have ever experienced in my life.

45 days later tragedy struck again when 107 people died in the Sosoliso air crash. This time around i cried like a baby : 70 future leaders of my dear country died a horrific death. Seeing their obituary in the dailies only made the pain worse. Also in that crash was Pastor Bimbo Odukoya (am even in tears typing this) mennnnn did i have questions for God or what? I was never fortunate enough to meet her in person but she impacted my life in so many ways (i will have a tribute up in 45 days).

117 souls perished exactly a year today in a crash that some felt could have been avoided but only the Almighty knows best. I take solace in the fact that my God is All-Knowing. My prayers go out especially to the widows, widowers, and children that were left behind by these departed compatriots. The Lord Almighty will continue to comfort them and provide for their needs. No amount of words can make things right but He who is the Comforter can do all things. May their gentle souls rest in peace.

2006-10-19T11:05:00.000+01:00

Evasive Surgery

A few weeks ago my hubby and I got talking about polishing our pearly whites. I have a thing for teeth (they just have to be on point). Earlier on this week he mentioned having a surprise for me, i tried all my antics to get it out of him but he wouldn't burge. Nice and early this morning he woke me up and said we had to go for my surprise.

An hour thirty minutes after i find myself in a dentist's room! I must confess i have never been to the dentist in my entire life so i was a little bit scared. After probing (i honestly felt my yearly physical wasn't this probing!) the dentist says and i quote : "you have lovely dentition,but i noticed u have two holes that are about to form (emi ke!).I will fill them up straight away to prevent things from getting worse."

I have never been surprised in my entire life (i am too nosey for my own good) so this was a pleasant surprise and to make things even better my pearly whites were saved from eternal deterioration. It got me thinking about the importance of medical check ups, we have these lovely God-given temples for at least 70 years (God willing) it only makes sense to ensure all the parts are in good working order.From regular twinz examinations, to smear tests, to visits to the dentist they are so darn important.

God help us all

The right way to brush

2006-10-18T17:09:00.000+01:00

My Meme

FOUR JOBS YOU'VE HAD IN YOUR LIFE

MacDonalds Crew Member ( yup, and it was my best job! age of innocence)
Customer Service Officer (Lloyds TSB)
Process Engineer
Calculus Tutor

FICTIONAL JOBS YOU WISH YOU HAD

Emergency Doctor (Blame it on watching too much ER)
Forensics Expert ( I am a junkie for CSI and Law Order series esp SVU!)

MOVIES YOU WOULD WATCH OVER AND OVER AGAIN

Sound of Music
Set it off
Moulin Rouge
Armageddon

CITIES YOU HAVE LIVED IN

Lagos, Nigeria
London, U.K
Albany, U.S.A
Atlanta, U.S.A

FOUR TV SHOWS YOU LOVE TO WATCH

ER
CSI
Law and Order SVU
Desperate Housewives

FOUR PLACES YOU HAVE BEEN ON VACATION TO

New York, U.S.A
Dubai, U.A.E
Toronto, CANADA
Dublin

FOUR WEBSITES YOU VISIT DAILY

Blogspot
www.nigeriaworld.com
yahoo.com
hotmail.com

FOUR OF YOUR FAVOURITE FOODS

Rice in any form
Ikokore
Weetabix lol
Food from Tiger Lily

FOUR THINGS YOU WON'T EAT

Raw Fish
Snakes
Coconut
Insects

FOUR THINGS YOU WISH YOU COULD EAT OR DRINK RIGHT NOW

Bank Olemoh Designer Rice
Strawberry Tall Cake (Ruby Tuesday)
My mum's fried eggs
Starbucks Hot Chocolate

FOUR THINGS IN YOUR ROOM

T.V
CDS
Books
Shoes

FOUR THINGS YOU WISH YOU HAD IN YOUR ROOM

More space
Walk-in closet
More Pillows
More Shoes

FOUR THINGS YOU ARE WEARING RIGHT NOW

Brown top
Blue denim skirt
Gold stud earrings
Chocolate 'funky' jacket

FOUR PLACES I WOULD RATHER BE

Dubai with my darling husband
Atlanta with my entire family
Iyana Ipaja NYSC Camp
North Georgia Mall Shopping till i drop!

FOUR FICTIONAL PLACES I WOULD RATHER BE

Beverly Hills 90210 with Luke Perry
Springfield with Bart
Forensics Lab with Grisham from CSI
In Segun Kadiri's (RMD's character in Checkmate) room lol

FOUR PEOPLE I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE DINNER WITH

Jesus Christ
My darling husband's mum (never got to meet her, would give her a massive hug for having my baby and training him well)
Oprah
Denzel Washington

FOUR THINGS I AM THINKING RIGHT NOW

Ouch my mouth feels funny
I doubt i can fit into that wedding dress again
My hubby is 'HOT'
I am hungry jo, come on 12 noon show 'ya face'

FOUR OF YOUR FAVORITE THINGS

My new funky jacket
My deep freezer
My leather couch
My bed

FOUR PEOPLE YOU TAG

2006-10-14T21:34:00.000+01:00

Random thoughts

This weekend has been sort of busy(had guests trooping in and out of our house.......its the norm during football season). Visited a familiy friend on Friday and found this cute 'gadget' called a lateral thigh trainer. Apparently its a God-sent for those who have a phobia for jogging(LondonBuki might have to come and tap some annointing in that area from you :))

Digressing for a hot second the rate at which the cost of this 'gadget' increases on this rossfitness website puts the fuel increase in naija to shame. On friday night it cost 32 GBP, on saturday it cost 37.55GBP how about its now 44.96GBP. Luckily i placed my order yesterday let's just hope they don't pull a fast one when they finally take the money off my card or else i will be throwing some serious blows.Added a few pounds because of the baby (ladies please don't believe the myth about eating for two when u get pregnant o, i am paying the price now).Anywayz i have decided this xmas will be extra special, this chica has alot to praise God for. Intend to shed alot of pounds by all means necessary lol(suggestions are welcome).

BACK TO MY ORIGINAL THOT :) went for a vigil at my in-law's church(it was so refreshing). I can't remember the last time i didn't doze at a vigil(this was just different). The pastor dwelt on John 9:1-3, it made be realise that every situation i might pass through is really to have God be glorified. He mentioned the case of the faceless baby(u.k bloggers check out channel 5 on monday @ 9pm).

While surfing through some of my favorite blogs i discovered that we have lost a rare gem in blogville. Please remember Morakinyo Akinkoye's family as well as his friends (esp Bhookey84 and Rose )in your prayers

May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace....Sun RE O

2006-10-12T22:35:00.000+01:00

You might win some............

Two days ago the England U-21 football team played against Germany and won 2-0(thanks to Walcott a true prodigy) GO GUNNERS!!!! Yesterday the senior team played against Croatia and lost 2-0(luckily i was busy entertaining and only had to deal with commentaries coming from our guests..... let me digress abit why do men who have no inclination towards sports seem to think they can do a better job than the coach??arggggggggghhh). I was saved the pain of having to watch them get their butts whooped! For those who hate watching football(soccer), the second goal was what is called 'lago' back in naija. The goalkeeper for the english team basically just kicked the ball into the post!

It got me really thinking about how quickly the tides could change for a person. Granted fingers are being pointed now at a few people in the team(trust the english press......they can praise you like a god one minute and turn around the next second and cuss your butt out). So McClaren used a defensive formation from the get go (3-5-2) in my opinion he had no plans of winning the match.....but even the so called overpaid/ overpraised players acted like they had something in their diapers(please allow i am really upset with their performance)

Need to do a few 'moo sah mo' like Martin Lawrence to get over this :)

2006-10-11T01:26:00.000+01:00

Counting my blessings

First and foremost i would like to say a big thank u to: (London Buki, Olawunmi and the life of a stranger called me) for welcoming me into blogville.Its seems i must have been hiding far away in Neptune or sumthin cos my addiction for blogspot just started!

I woke up this morning really thankful for all God had done in my life......i know at just the right time i will have cause to truly testify to His goodness. This time last month(11th September) i was lying in a hospital bed with needles all over(i still think i ought to sue the hospital for turning me into a pin cushion!). For those who have read my profile you know i recently jumped the broom :) married life is sweet but mennnnn am i learning fast that i need to tame my tongue if this union is going to last! Sorry i digressed there :) anywayz i was flat on my back for two days and i couldn't do anything for myself not even using the loo. While in this position the last thing on my mind was to thank God(infact i was questioning Him).

I was twelve weeks pregnant when this incident happened and the last words i heard the midwife mention before i bursted into tears were 'inevitable miscarriage'. Yup i lost the baby........and as much as i hated the morning sickness and not fiting into all my 'sezzzyyy' outfits i was completely crushed. I still can't find words to describe the physical pain i went through(thank goodness for my darling husband).

The hardest part was after i was discharged from the hospital (going back to reality). Honestly i am not exaggerating every where i went i saw a pregnant woman or someone pushing a pushchair and i would just feel this surge of anger and bitterness. Thank goodness for the Holy Spirit who kept me in check i would have caused some havoc for real!An aunt told me while i was at the hospital that i needed to ask God what He wanted me to learn from this event(i thought she was off her trolley at first). A month after i can clearly see that she was right when she said those words......... So far i have learnt to appreciate the little things alot more.

I woke up this morning truly grateful to God for all He has done in my life and that of my darling husband. The most exciting part is that we are still a work in progress. I am a big fan of Oprah so i try to keep a gratitude journal 'of a sort'. Went through the journal today and i realised i have 'ha' reason to praise the Lord. For my marriage, my darling husband,for my unborn children, for my darling dad and mum(u would think my mum and i were married to the same man the way we act), and my siblings.

2006-10-06T15:20:00.000+01:00

Coming out..........

I have always had a thing for scribbling my thoughts and stuff like that but the past year has seen a great plummeting in that department. Hopefully i will be more insprired to let it flow. I have never really thought of myself as an ingrate until i stumbled onto LondonBuki's blog (check out mummy monday). My mum celebrated her birthday a few weeks ago. It was supposed to be a memorable occasion but as usual we got into one of our ugly fights. After reading Buki's blog i realized there was alot i had to work on as a person.

We are only blessed to have 'these' people around for a couple of years......why wait till they die before we celebrate them. Why not make each day count? Granted majority of us are continents away from our folks but that 3 minute phonecall twice a week will help mend whatever fences are jacked up.

I have always been of the opinion that my mum is just out to frustrate me but an incident last month changed my views(more on that later)

My first entry is therefore dedicated to LondonBuki's mum..............Jehovah Rapha our healer will perfect all that concerns you.(Amen)